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A place where one can ask any question, and expect thoughtful, honest answers, based not only on collective experiences, but currently available scholarly research. If you are unsure of what you should be doing, which authors are reliable, or even what you believe, just ask. ALL QUESTIONS ARE WELCOME!! We have the knowledge and experience to help you find the answers that you seek, as you journey forward on your Pagan path.

Please note: we attempt to reply to all questions in a timely manner, though there may be exceptions in cases where a more in-depth explanation is merited. When asking a question, please be as detailed as possible, as that makes it easier for us to address your question as it specifically relates to you, rather than in a more generic way.

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244 responses

  1. Hello,

    I am currently trying to find a group with whom to interact and study in Charlotte, NC area and am having difficulty doing so. Could you help me?

  2. Question Ask through out Tumblr page…

    Q: It took me a while to figure out what the lines between Trad Wicca, Eclectic Wicca and Eclectic Paganism were. Knowing when you’re no longer a solitary eclectic Wiccan but a Gaelic Polytheist (or any other distinct form of paganism) would be helpful to newcomers, I’m sure.

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  3. Hello, I have been doing alot of studying, and I feel that becoming a Wiccan is the right path for me. My question is that since I was raised as a catholic, how can I “switch” religions? Do I have to do something to change to become a Wiccan?

  4. Okay… I am new to Paganism (I’ve known about Wicca since I was 12, but I have gotten into it hardcare in the last month or so) and I have been really confused on which path is right for me, and I want to do this right. People keep telling me to pray and to meditate, and to research/read. The problem is… I’m not sure what to pray or meditate for or research/read. Right now, I am reading Scott Cunningham’s book for the solitary practice, because that is what I want to do, be a solitary witch. I would like to study witchcraft, healing, herbs, stones, divination (mostly tarot and pendulums), nature and the moon. Perhaps you could give me an idea of where to go with this?

  5. Hi, I’ve been searching all over the internet for scholarly information on how psychoactive plants were used in early religions, and how they may have shaped the religions as a whole. So far, I haven’t had much luck in my search. Can you help me?

  6. Hello there, I’m a young Pagan, being only 16, but I live in a very small very strict Christian town and few here are open minded. Being in high school, and knowing how fast things go around, I try very hard to hide my beliefs which sometimes makes me very sad. My beliefs are me, so I’m hiding myself. Only my closest of friends know my religion, but I still have to hide in a whole. Should I just embrace my religion and not care about my social life as a 16 year old? There are moments here I actually fear for my life because of my religion. I don’t know what to do. Should I continue to hide it until I’m 18 and move out? Please and thank you!

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  9. Hello, basically I have known about and been very interested in paganism since I was about 10 years old. I’m just confused as to which path to follow seeing as there seem to be so many! I think I will most likely be a solitary witch and am definitely interested in practicing magik, following the moon, the seasons, following the wiccan rede, healing, all sorts really. I just really need advise on getting stuck in, I mean there’s so much to learn where do you start?! I wish it were easier to find someone to guide me on my path.

  10. Hello, I am having trouble finding information specificly on having Freyja as a patron goddess. I have always considered myself agnostic, but I looked up symbols I have been dreaming about my whole life (boars, wolves, a woman, the word ‘vala’ which turns out to be another word for völva) and they led directly to Freyja. Unfortunately, the little bit of information I can find about her is extremely sparce and redundant.

  11. I consider myself Rokkrtru and work almost exclusively with the Jotnar. It is well known that Thor’s favourite pastime is bashing Jotnar with his hammer, and that the AEsir and Jotnar are enemies. Why is it then that Thor’s own mother is a Jotunn – Jord, and yet he still feels hatred towards her (and indirectly his own) kin? Similarly, Odin swears an oath with Loki (another Jotunn) and they become blood brothers, while he sleeps with Jord to produce Thor. If the two principal gods of the pantheon have this close a relationship with the Jotnar, why is there this apparent contradiction where they are enemies?

    • Sorry for the late reply, we are still pulling together a few resources, but the short answer is that they really aren’t enemies, and a lot of the “hatred” that many feel towards the Jotnar, and even Loki are based on misconceptions and in most cases not taking the time to do a bit more in-depth study of the lore. Hope to have a more specific reply within the next couple days. Thanks for your patience. 🙂

    • To be honest we could write a long essay for you, but you’re much better served by reading the lore and solid sources such as Gundarsson’s “Elves, Wights and Trolls”, which speaks of them at length and will give you a better impression of the wide variety of Jotnar and their various relationships with the Aesir. Essentially, it may be “well known” that the Aesir and Jotnar are enemies, but it’s not true.

      Aside from the Jotnar just in general not being opposed to the Aesir, most of the Aesir have Jotun ancestry and some are apparently full-blooded. Tyr is of Jotun stock, yet is Aesir. Ditto Loki.

      Read Elves, Wights and Trolls, and everything it cites, is my advice to you.

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  13. Hi, I’ve been studying paganism for about 3 years now gathering as much information I can on the subject. I would say I identify as being very eclectic, interested in witchcraft and very nature based, but what next? I feel like I’m stuck in a beginners rut, most of the information I find is aimed at beginners and I’m not progressing. I’m also having trouble putting what I’ve learnt into practice, I want to try ritual but I don’t know where to start, plus moneys an issue for supplies (although I would try where possible to use materials I find out and about) any advice would be greatly appreciated, love and light.

  14. I have had a dream where I see a boy with three crystals in a triangle the right side white the left purple and the bottom red and when he held them up to the sun they shined down on the earth what could they mean?

    • This was a tough one. We’ve given a bit of info here. However we’ve also put a call out for reader assistance, to see if anyone else might have somewhat better insight. Thanks for asking!!

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  16. I have read through all of your answers and looked through the site and I thought I’d just go ahead and ask since you give wonderful advice and guidance. I am struggling with an identifiable name for my spirtual path because I feel like I am all over the place, reading everything and overwhelmed. I’ve had people tell me to just follow my intuition, which helps for a while but then I’m back to overwhelmed-ville! I basically follow the season, moon phases, and like to feel connected to nature. Maybe I should say ‘I’m on my own personal spiritual path’ and be done with it. On a side note, most recently, I’ve learned how to pick the good info from the bad, after much reading so that helps me to find better information. (Such as this place…so helpful!)

  17. Hello. I find myself in a number of a tough spots concerning my spirituality.

    I am a male eclectic who tends to consult the female divine before the male, with an emphasis on the Norse gods of my ancestors, though I also worship Lilith.

    But this has created a number of problems for me, as I live in a strongly christian family and community.

    My worship of Lilith has led to me being likened to a virtual satanist by members of my parent’s church, and I am often ignored completely by those people, even when I volunteer my time and effort to help them set up sound or computer equipment as an act of good will. Nobody speaks to me unless they have no other choice, yet when I was a christian, they were the nicest possible people to me.

    My parents are a little better, but they still repeatedly try to convert me to Christianity by trying to guilt me, or worse yet by calling the stories of my Norse ancestors, which I cherish as much as any christian cherishes the word of Christ, “fictional tales”, which I find deeply insulting on a number of levels. I love the gods and stories of my ancestors, and I wish that my parents could respect that, if only when I was around, at the very least.

    It’s sad, because I feel I should be able to speak to my own parents about spiritual matters without facing constant ridicule.

    Despite my friends who are all supportive of my path, I feel very alone, and I would like to know how I might approach these situations in a manner that is kinder and more respectful than how I have been treated so far.

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  19. I am living in my grandfather’s home and he doesn’t know I’m a Pagan. He’s a very devoted Christian, and he grew up with Christianity and doesn’t seem to be very open minded. My father on the other hand is very supportive. Even though my father did grow up going to a Christian church as a child he doesn’t criticize me. Is there anyway to bring this up and not offend my grandfather? I’m only 17 but I really care for him, and my grandma just passed. Should I bring it up at all?

    • While I can understand wanting to have the support of your Grandfather, as he is someone that you are close to, I really think that in this case – unless he is asking specific questions – that the best choice would be to not say anything at all. Especially at this point, if he is dealing with the passing of his wife, he’s already under a huge amount of stress, and going through the stages of grief that come along with such a loss. Adding anything on top of that, would just be way too much, and even under normal circumstances, if he might be inclined to be accepting – with all else that is changing in his life, he’s unlikely to take it very well. It’s possible that at some point in the future, there may be an opportunity to talk to him about it, but truly I don’t think that now is that time.

      I would also caution, that if you are living under his roof, that you be particularly respectful of that. If you know that he would be unwelcoming of Pagan practices, it might be a good idea (even if he hasn’t explicitly said “don’t do that”) to refrain from any sort of rituals – at least within the house.

      If you haven’t had a chance yet, I would also suggest reading the following, which cover some other aspects of “Things to Think About” when coming out of the broom closet, and/or “When Hiding One’s Beliefs May Be the Better Choice“.

      Good Luck!!

  20. Hello there!
    I was curious about something I have heard of in pop culture as well as many ancient stories from around the globe, the usage of curses or “dark magic.” I have heard from many pagans that dark magic doesn’t exist and from others that it does exist but it is a double edged sword. the ones who say it exists say that if you tried to curse or hex someone you would also curse/hex yourself because the energy gathered to preform the curse/hex would first flow through yourself. The others say that it is impossible to use magic in that way. What are your thoughts?

    • Lots of these are myth but there may be some merit to this myth. Because we are all human in that same respect. People that get angry could curse people out of spite but that is totally a human thing to do, and you should base your view on a couple of people that have done this. And keep in mind Satanists will do a sort of ritual that one would consider a curse to release their anger (This is normal on their part).

      About “dark magic” I personally use a little dark magic because in my view in nature there is both (black and white). Bad thing happen naturally and so do good things.

      Just keep in mind if you have a friend that is Pagan or Wiccan you should not be deciding if you still like them because the actions of another person.

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  22. Hi, i’m new to paganism and am wondering about Pan, and if he is a loving deity. I think our culture has stereotyped the idea of the devil so much that searching for understanding/differences/alternatives is difficult. I’ve heard of the green-woman but not very much about her. Goddesses interest me, its just that compared to the hypocritical ideas in christian religions of a loving god + hell, other kinds of male deities interest me too… i’d like to believe in good ones in general that work for me.

      • Wow, i never actually thought about having free will when it came to hearing a call from a deity. I very much respect the need to let your hair down and feel free/happy as it were….but what i have a problem with is the idea of nymphs going to great lengths to avoid getting caught while chased by Pan….it reminds me to much of sexual predators, with personal things in my life that could never be comfortable to me. Am I misinterpreting something? What exactly did you mean by Pan in the word panic? When i said good i didn’t mean in a cut and dry way, just something/someone that sat very well to me.
        Thank you…

    • but what i have a problem with is the idea of nymphs going to great lengths to avoid getting caught while chased by Pan….it reminds me to much of sexual predators, with personal things in my life that could never be comfortable to me. Am I misinterpreting something?

      I think that it’s one of those things where in the normal course of things – he just likes to have a good time, and sometimes that works for some people, and sometimes it doesn’t. He’s noted for an association with fertility and sexuality, and considering some of his other attributes, there are probably instances where it can go too far.

      What exactly did you mean by Pan in the word panic?

      One of Pan’s aspects, is as the God of Panic. So there is within him, the ability for causing terror, madness, and/or sudden illogical fear.

  23. I could not find where to specifically ask a question, so I apologize if this winds up attached to someones blog. So I have been Shaman for a long time, but an atheist one. I did not believe in any gods or goddesses. The last few years Odin and Freya have been appearing to me. I started to believe in them and wanted to identify with their tradition.
    My husband practices what is called Asatru, but he prefers to be called heathen. I found out why, when researching our faith every American Asatru network was connected to neo nazisim and the most hateful practices.
    I am so upset and I feel like I am losing my faith. My husband swears those people are not part of actual Asatru, and that this is why most followers of Asatru now just call themselves Norse Pagans or Heathens. The Odin and Freya I am familiar with were the most loving beings I’ve ever encountered and I feel like a whole that was filled is being emptied. As the mass American belief in this is so horrible I don’t know how to find what the information I need. I am scared that the whole belief might be like this and I just didn’t realize. I hope it’s not true, because for the first time in my life I felt fulfilled and at peace, and then I went to research it and everything changed. I’ve been told repeatedly by my husband that what I do, healing people, healing nature, communing with spirits and following the example of Odin and Freya is what the religious followers actually do and the other people just perverted and poisoned it, but the problem is is that I cannot find ANY information on the old ways, which is what we both practice. I will never ever associate myself with neo nazism, even if it means losing my religion, but I hope my husband is right. That those people perverted it and what they do has nothing in common with true Asatru. Sorry for how long this is, this has been really hard on me. Any help would be wonderfully welcomed.

    • You found the right place to Ask, and we are glad that you did. In this case your husband is correct, and there is no reason why you can’t practice the religion that you feel you’ve been called to. You can find our complete take on the issue here.

  24. Hello. i dont know an awful lot about wicca.but for 5 years ive been able to sense (feel) a spirit guide.always there especially in times of need. for 2 days now i keep dreaming and thinking of a red dragon.it took me on its back and seemed friendly.he said his name is damascus.i think maybe just a lucid dream.but something in my head says theres more to damascus.is there any reference to dragons perhaps?

  25. I cannot find anything on the history of mermaids. I mean, I can, but everything seems unsubstantiated. I would like to consult a professional.

    • My apologies for the late reply. Honestly I’m not entirely sure what you are looking for – mermaids (and similar) show up in the lore across a fairly wide variety of cultures. In many cases it’s likely that sailors mistook other sea-creatures for them, but overall it’s hard to say.

      I know recently Animal Planet has had a couple different shows on Mermaids claiming that they are real – both shows were “mockumentaries”, meaning that they were designed to look like factual documentary-style shows, but were in fact primarily fictional entertainment. As of yet there no actual evidence that mermaids exist.

      As far as additional sources for research purposes, at this point, I’d direct you to the main Wiki page – there is a huge list of resources at the bottom which would be a good place to start learning more. You can also probably find many of the mentioned folklore tales and mythologies on the Sacred Texts website.

  26. I have a moral question. Firstly. I would like to say this girl. Is my best friend. But he is messing with. An. Engaged man. Now she knows. She shouldn’t. But that’s not what’s confusing me it’s the fact that she has the herpies simplex virus and I think they have had sex and I don’t think she told him that ache has an std. Should I tell him that she has it?

    • Have you talked to her at all about any of this? If you haven’t then you need to sit down with her and talk to her about it. There may not be a lot you can do about her seeing someone who is engaged – it’s her choice – and something that is between the two of them (and the fiancée). All you can do is ask her to think about how she would feel if someone she cared about ever did something like that to her. Remind her too, that if he will cheat on someone else, it’s likely he’ll cheat on her as well at some point.

      As to the other – I think that you should encourage her to come clean to him, if they are having a sexual relationship. It’s pretty reprehensible to knowingly pass around an STD, and especially in the case of herpes, a condom doesn’t always protect against that. Nor does not being in the middle of an outbreak guarantee that it can’t be passed on, so it’s always good for one who is infected to give their partner correct information, so that they can properly weigh the risks. You may want to mention to her as well, that people who knowingly pass on an STD (or fail to disclose such) can be at risk for legal action if their partner ends up with one and decides to sue.

      If she absolutely won’t tell him, and you are sure that they are having sex, then you have to do what your conscience tells you is the right thing to do. Realize though, that it might cost you your friend. Personally they both probably deserve what they get, but I wouldn’t want the fiancée to get caught in the middle of it. So that’s something you have to consider as well.

  27. I was on a walk surrounded by nature and I asked the to show me a form of her and in the next two steps a coyote appeared….was this a sign from her? BB

  28. I am 16 and a fairly sensitive empath. And I have a habit of taking in lots of animals, because I feel like I have an actual physical need to have animals around me. When I don’t have any I start to lose my sanity a little, I start seeing things, get depressive, violent… but when I’m with my animals, I feel safe and calm, like I belong with them. And sometimes I can communicate with my animals as well, even the reptiles, they don’t speak to me with human words but somehow, I still understand. People are starting to tell me I’m crazy and have too many animals (I now have 32 with two litters of mice on the way), but when I start to get stressed, I just get another animal. It helps me through the stress of the world around me. Is there an explanation for all this?

    • Also, don’t be calling me an animal hoarder, because I have the capability of taking care of every one of my animals. They are all healthy and active as can be, and the rescues are getting there.

    • hi,
      i just read your comment. I’m 18 and I feel exactly the same. I wouldn’t call myself an empathy and i don’t feel the need for many animals. However i feel out of place with people. when im out in nature or with my dog i feel as if the whole world is at peace and that I’m fully accepted. when I’m with people i don’t fit in.

  29. Hello I am finding it kind of hard to follow how to practice paganism and I want to learn but what I am finding is that it is very broad and there arnt many set things, it seems it is made up by each individual person in their own ways.

  30. Hi, i am a guy living in a really stiff condition regarding my psychological instincts. I am neither a psycho nor a hyper active person. It’s just that all the time i feel half in this world (it may sound funny!) but the other half is always in illussion. I hope you guys can help if you can.
    P.S- My D.O.B- november 17, 1988 time- 15:55 + i have a perfect pentagon star on my right palm below the thump pointing upwards.

  31. Hello,

    I’ve been studying paganism for years, reading new literature every moment and following anything interesting online.

    I am making a unique ring for a family member for a milestone stone in life. I would like to cleanse, consecrate, and charge the piece for this person.

    Should I do this on my own or should I have the individual do it with me? I am looking to charge it with the energies of the materials being used.

    Please give me any advice you have! 🙂

  32. My mother is a pagan. Unfortunately we do not have a good relationship and havent spoken in a long time. She used to give me vinegar baths, after doing a search I’ve found that it can be used for protection from negativity or against those who you wish to be gone. Is this correct?
    Thankyou for your time

  33. Hello,
    I was raised really with the freedom of finding my own religion. I have always felt strongly towards nature and tend to see all living things as equal. If we practice Magik are we not undermining the powers of mother nature by believing we can change things with magik? And how can we be sure this isn’t used for the wrong reasons?

  34. I’m currently a student studying radiography and I was wondering if there are other wiccans in the modern healthcare industry? I have researched this topic but have yet to get an answer so I figured I would ask.

  35. Hi my names Seren and I have know of a while I want to follow a path of paganism and in my own way spiritually I have tried. But as Im getting older ( I was 9 when I discovered paganism ) I have realised I haven’t actually found a path and keep flickering between a few. I just wanted to ask how do I know which one because a part of me wants to be Wiccan, another Asatru and another neo-Druidist and I really cant find one to follow. So I was wondering is there something I can read which might help me find my way? or do you have any advice?

  36. Hi, I’m fairly new to all of this, and I have *so* many questions! To start off, how should I go about leaving offerings? I’m very interested in Dionysus (and I think that he isn’t all too bored with me yet), I think I should leave him grape juice (as I’m too young to buy alcohol), honey, and the like in the woods (they aren’t as wild as I would like, but they’re all I have around here). Is there any certain thing I should say, or a place to leave it, such as in a tree, on the ground, etc? Also, how would I know if he accepted it? Would you recommend leaving jewelry with amethysts (I heard it was his symbolic stone) or purple beads on it? I know of the maenads and how they would run into the wild for him, but did they just have sex and hunt? Is it required to hunt with your bare hands for it to count? Is it *really* normal to not be outright contacted by your god, but instead have small signs?
    Thank you so much in advance!

  37. Hello. I’m a twenty two year old college junior. I’ve been a pagan a little over a year now. My mother is a devout christian. I haven’t told her that I’m pagan. I feel guilty that she doesn’t know. I don’t like lying or keeping it a secret. I’m afraid it will break her heart if i tell her. By her belief, I am condemning myself to hell. Should I tell her? If so,how should I tell her? Thank you, Nikkie

    • It’s a really tough choice to make sometimes. While we don’t generally advocate outright lying to friends/family, you will definitely need to weigh the pros and cons of telling someone about your religious choices, particularly when you know that they will not approve, and worse it might even cause them distress to know. Generally if the stress and disruption of telling someone outweighs any of the potential positive benefits of them knowing, it’s better not to say anything.

      I would suggest reading the following, for some helpful suggestions on if/when one should let others know about their spirituality, or what factors can weigh into continuing to keep it to oneself…

      * When Hiding One’s Beliefs May Be the Better Choice

      * Pagan Coming Out Day: Things to Think About

  38. Hello, I have a question about paganism without gods. Is it possible? What does worshipping the triple goddess or the horned god achieve, if instead you’d prefer to appreciate the world around you. Are they simply figureheads, ritual shorthand, for the traits they represent? Would love some recommended reading and some helpful words. Thank you 🙂

  39. I would like to know….
    When making a wand I know most people…well…top it off with a crystal to help give it more power.
    I wanted to know if rocks could be used the same way?

    • I would suggest reading the following. Really you can use just about any material that you want to, in terms of making your wand. Rocks are minerals which can have properties, in the same way that crystals do. So there’s no reason why you can’t use them if that’s what calls to you.

  40. Hi. I’m trying to figure out how to fix a broken pendant spell. But so far I haven’t found much luck on finding anything that could help me. I desperately want it fixed because it means a lot to someone I care about dearly,but don’t know how to fix it. PLEASE HELP!!!

    • How is it broken exactly, or what exactly needs fixing?

      Magic isn’t like Harry Potter… we don’t wave a wand while saying “reparo” and suddenly make it all better. So if it’s a chain, or other physical part of the pendant that is broken, the only way to fix it would be to take it to a reputable jeweler and see if they have someone on staff that does metal working and/or jewelry repair. Other options would be if you know anyone who does jewelry making that is proficient in wire wrapping or, at the very least, has the tools/supplies to fix the chain (if that is indeed what it is).

      Outside of physical aspects, without knowing how it’s broken (in a magical sense), it’s nearly impossible to direct you to the right spell (assuming that such exists). Of course in most cases it’s better to write your own anyways, but sometimes it’s nice to be able to see what others have written to use a guideline if it’s something that is unfamiliar to you.

      Some sort of general things that you can try are cleansing and recharging if it’s a matter of the pendant not seeming to hold the same properties that it once had, but again without knowing specifics it’s really hard to give any sort of really concrete, advice. So definitely comment back so that we can help to point you in the right direction.

  41. Well it’s the spell that’s broken,not the charm.
    It was based off of something personal,if you don’t mind could I email the info to you for more details?

  42. Please help me if you can.I’m new to tarot cards.I decided to do a reading for myself.I asked the cards if i would become pregnant soon?
    This are thr cards I did a 4 cards spread.
    1.)past:reversed five pentacles
    2.)present:reversed wheel of fortune
    3.)future:reversed devil
    4.)distant future:reversed the tower.

    If you Can,can you please tell me what the cards are trying to say?

  43. Greetings,

    I am fairly new to the Wiccan path and I am confused about Deity. I understand in Wicca there are the main Goddess and God, who both form the Divine/Great Spirit. And that all cultural deities (for many Wiccans) are facets, faces or aspects of the God and Goddess. Like in Hinduism, many Deities but each one makes up the Whole. Yet what confuses me is that for example if someone did a ritual with Morrigan, Aphrodite and Shiva, it would be disrespectful to combine these deities together or treat goddesses the same. If they are all parts of one Whole, why would it be a bad idea to have them together? I hope this makes sense. It’s very confusing for me. Any advice would be great! -Nakomis

  44. My boyfriend is Wiccan and I told him from the begining if that is what you belive its okay with me. Recently we had a problem with sombeing targeting me and we blessed the house with sage, well he did. Anyway he expressex want to do some thing with me I do not remember the name it was hand binding? Anyway he belive i am extremely uncomfortable with him being wiccan and I not. How do I show him I am not uncomfortable, or in anyway do not support him?

    • I think you should just have him explain it more to you. If you feel uncomfortable with him doing a spell or cleansing the house with sage (sage is used to cleanse bad energy by the way, not to bless things). I don’t know much about the two of you or if you are still dating, but if you are, from what it seems like, you are uncomfortable because you don’t know what he’s doing.

      • I JUST REALIZED I COMPLETELY MISUNDERSTOOD YOUR QUESTION! I truly apologize. Although, I still do believe your should just talk to him and try to have him explain more so you can get a good grip on his religion and why is follows it and see he feels more supported.

  45. I really don’t know what to make of some of the dreams I’ve such as dreaming of the other world to that day I had never seen or heard of it before as it came to me in a dream. I’ve a fairy fly past me before give me a kiss on my left cheek. I’ve had dreams that I was an elf. Lots of dreams an elf, a mermaid, and unicorn. I’ve had a dream where my was a mermaid and I asked her if I could come home. She told me it wasn’t my time. I really don’t know what to make of this. Every time I think of her I get really sad and depressed. Sometimes I feel as if I don’t belong here. I’m never take my life. It just feeling of not belonging here.

  46. Hello,

    For most of my life I have had no spiritual or religious calling, and have been dealing with a lack of emotional balance and sense of self and identity for the past year or so. Recently because I was curious since a friend of mine refers to himself as a Wicca, I googled Wicca and what I found really struck a chord with me in a manner that nothing else has before. It was really quite strange! Like others that commented here I’m searching for a direction to pursue, but at this point I think I know what I’m most drawn to.

    Nature has always been a fascination of mine, and I feel a strong connection to animals in particular. I would like to know where you reccomend to find more information about the God and the Goddess, as they appeal to me, since I feel that I would like to explore the male and female aspects of myself. But I am also interested in altars and circles, along with the rituals that relate to them. I like the idea of actively doing something in a symbolic manner to give thanks, celebrate, ask for guidance, (something I need in particular at this time of my life) or honor to someone, etc. I guess a more hands on path is for me?

    The five elements concept from Wicca traditions are also of intrigue, as are the Law of Three and the Rede. Due to my tendency to lose objects, pendulums might be helpful, are there books are them specifically? I’d also like to know what you recommend for learning about stones and perhaps runes, as there seems to be books absolutely everywhere on their meanings and properties.

    I am yet to decide on anything but I’ve been researching and will continue to do so, as I said, what I’ve seen so far of Wicca and witchcraft appeal to me the most.

    Thank you!

  47. Hello, I am fairly new to Wiccan and other source’s of magic…I have done few spells on my own a few times (nothing to serious to do damage) but well now I need some advice. I have checked everywhere on the internet…from Voodoo to Hoodoo to black magic and white magic. But the spells they gave me were alittle…over the line..I need simple non intimate spell on how to keep a soul mate with me and make them stay loyal and with me…he has given me permission to do a love spell and says if it.helps.my mind stay at ease then he doesn’t mind…I’m hopimg you could give me simple.spell.that doesnt involve making candles that look loke his penis or have to use his body hair (aka.pubic hair) if its possible. Then I hope.you can help and thank you

    • I’m going to suggest you read the following, and then think really carefully again about your question.

      Regardless of his permission (which odds are you probably haven’t explained the potential consequences adequately anyways, if you are still fairly new to your practices) If you have to do soulbinding magic to “ease your mind” – then there are underlying issues within the relationship that need to be addressed first. This is not something you do, as a last resort, to hold a relationship together. Arguably, it’s not something anyone should do ever really – the potential for disaster outweighs any potential benefits.

  48. what dose one give to the host of the mabon celebration as a thank you? is there a proper way to say thank you for when one comes to another’s home for rituals?

  49. My dad used to be a Christian minister and he blesses every house we move in to and I was wondering if that would interfere with any of my wiccan spells/practices?

    • Really will depend on how he’s wording them, and whether or not he’s invoking YHWH specifically. Something like a general “bless this house and keep it safe”, probably wouldn’t be an issue, but “GOD bless this house, use your might and power to cast out all evil, etc… ” might.

      Given that GOD tends to be a solitary sort of fellow, and not known for playing nice with others – He may view other Gods as interlopers, or if you are invoking other entities He may view them as demonic (even if they really aren’t). So in the context of the blessing, it could potentially cause him to intercede unnecessarily, which could affect the energy going into your work.

      May need to go behind your dad and do a deep cleansing ritual and then put your own home blessing in place. Or if you feel comfortable (and are open about your practices) ask him (nicely) to please stop, as you would prefer to do it your way.

  50. I had a dream where a shadow figure was after my mum. the moment I saw it in my dream I was scared, it was outside tried to grab my mum head (we were on the deck) & it came inside my house & tried to get to my mum but I stopped it, then it went down the hallway & that’s when I woke up. Even though I was scared it didn’t come,after me even though I was right in front of it at one point. Does anyone know what this dream means?

  51. A friend of mine has recently become a practicing witch, and she wanted to take a look at my palm earlier today.
    When I pressed her about the reading the most I got was her asking whether or not I felt anything. When I said I didn’t she simply said ‘good’.
    Any further question gets me called out for wanting every little thing explained to me, but I just want to know what she might have been looking for; it is my life she was inspecting after all.

    • Given that she won’t even give you a basic explanation without getting defensive about it, my guess is that she really wasn’t actually doing anything. Maybe just trying to look “witchy” or otherwise impressive/mysterious with her newfound practices.

      Typically, those who are new to learning such skills – when they are actually practicing them, like to explain what they are doing, so that if (particularly in the case of divination, or other types of readings) something actually comes to pass, there will be some sort of validation that they are doing things correctly (or are becoming more proficient in their skills). So the fact that she is avoiding, or outright blocking any of your attempts to question her, speaks volumes.

      Outside of that (if she was actually looking at something), there is really no way for anyone else to know what she might have been looking for. Assuming she was attempting to read your palm, there are any number of insights that one could potentially gain from that. In general, basic personality characteristics, things related to possible future paths that your life might take, as well as glimpses of things that have happened in your past which have directly impacted those future paths. You can read more about the basics of palmistry here.

  52. I just found out that my Grandmother, who passed away several years ago, was a Wiccan. It was never discussed, and was never brought up in the past. I didn’t come to the realization until recently when my mother had mentioned that she had books on witchcraft in a passing comment. While I don’t practice spellcraft, being more focused on spirituality and meditation, I would like to recover said books as it breaks my heart to think they are gathering dust in some basement. I’m not sure if I will find her grimoire or not, as no one knows if she kept one. Like I said, her being a Wiccan was never discussed, and my mother wasn’t even certain that was her religion. So what I’m getting at here, I’m not sure what to do if I find it. I was hoping you could offer suggestions how to handle this situation. Part of me feels as though I’ll be breaching a boundary of privacy by looking into the grimoire if I find one, another part of me demands that I look inside if I do find one for there were a lot of questions that sprung up around her passing.

  53. A few weeks ago, a candle sparked up a 5-6 inch flame (very odd) and lit a photo of Kuan Yin on fire (that had been hanging above my alter, framed.) As a result, my altar caught fire. I know this doesn’t happen often, per-se, but I’ve heard of it happening before. This definitely wasn’t something that was just ‘logic’, by any means it shouldn’t have happened (as in, there’s no physical way that the flame could have just jumped by chance and burned the photo.) Since I’ve restarted a temporary altar, I’ve found that a lot of my connection with Kuan Yin has dissipated. I don’t feel the same spark as I used to with her. When I noticed my connection with her fading, very suddenly I felt these weird ‘taps’ and ‘pulls’ trying to connect to Aphrodite and Hermes- I’m interested in working with them. Things were suddenly popping up around me and it was like they were demanding my attention, and whenever I read about them, try to connect with them, I can almost immediately visualize them. That didn’t happen with Kuan yin – she was more of a motherly love that I felt content with and that was shared with me. It was especially odd that, though the fire somehow spread to the center of my altar, the rose I’d laid out to dry had remained untouched and even free of ash, unlike all of the rest of my altar. That was a sign I hadn’t thought of until I’d had a dream of a woman with bright red hair, roses tucked and twined with her hair, surrounded by deep and dark waters, but untouched by them. I’ve never personally seen Aphrodite portrayed with such violently red hair before, but the figure in my dream had the same sheer aura of beauty as many would say embodies Aphrodite herself.
    Do you think that I should continue with my feelings and connect more with Aphrodite and Hermes? Or should I try to rekindle the connection I had with Kuan Yin? (Or maybe I made a mistake and the fire happened as a result – more of a karmic thing. I considered a lot of things, but I couldn’t necessarily find one that would render a fire like that, and the feelings in it weren’t necessarily negative. Of course I was scared, but there wasn’t actually a fear or panic within me, I felt unusually and oddly calm.)

  54. What is the “Crying Moon” phase of the moon? I have heard of this recently and have tried to find info on it, but I can’t find anything – it’s almost like it doesn’t really exist. Can you lead me in the right direction to learn more about this?

    • If you can remember where you heard about it, it might be good to ask the person you heard it from (or if it was a website, see if you can contact them). I’ve never heard of it either, and in searching around couldn’t find anything at all, other than a few songs with the title, that were completely unrelated to Paganism.

      If it was definitely being used in context with Paganism, could be that it was someone’s personal path, or may be that they have personal names for various phases of the moon. I will keep asking around though, and see if anyone else has any ideas.

      Edit… found some reference to it here, however, just given some of their other comments under that post, I don’t think that they are a very good source of information. The “class” they reference is on their website, but there wasn’t actually any additional information there about the that particular phase. Would be interesting to know what resources they are using for their information, but I really don’t suggest taking any of the classes, as (at least with some of the classes) I don’t think that they are all that reputable. If you did – I would take whatever you are “taught” with a large grain of salt, and cross-reference with other more credible sources.

  55. Thank you Sephira, for your help. The source where I heard this is a trusted source, and in fact is a question in an online class I am taking. The info that I have seen from the source is that it is a seldom used phase of the moon because it is associated with negativity, and most Pagans avoid it or pretend it doesn’t exist. However, it can be used for positive work when you are wanting to get rid of negative energy for yourself.

    I have been a bit confounded on this phase (in trying to learn more about the moon) in that there is absolutely no info avaliable on it – except for a song, like you said. I am supposed to elaborate more on this particular lesson, but have no resources to back it up. When asked about it, the basic info I gave you above is all the info the source has about it.

    I don’t want to “know” about something, but really not know about it, and was hoping you had more info. I really appreciate your help.

    • I just saw your edit Sephira, and thank you. I agree with you totally about taking things with a grain of salt unless the info has been thoroughly researched. One of the things I have respected about the school thus far is that they teach that the basis of all true knowledge is based on documented facts from many different reliable sources. I am a bit disappointed about the “crying moon” info (or lack of it), but because of the school’s demand for thorough research, this lack of info was discovered.

      I feel as if I have gained so much at the school, and nothing on this planet being perfect, that it probably won’t be the last time a slip up will be made on their part. I appreciate their #1 rule of truth and heavy research (and the base fact that it is free). I will stand behind the school; but, continue gaining the knowledge on my path by research and asking questions from many resources. I have much to thank the school for.

      I so appreciate you helping me, as I feel that you are a trusted resource as well.

      • Thanks!! Glad we could help. 🙂

        The comment that was made on the FB seems similar to that…
        “Most Pagans do not work with the Crying Moon and Wiccans do not work with it or even consider its existence because it is commonly the time that Curses are done and when negative magick is performed. Because of the Harm None rule of Wicca, the Wiccan community simply ignores this aspect of the moon phases and pretends it doesn’t exist.”

        So, I’m wondering if they are just repeating what was said elsewhere.

        That particular comment is why I suggest taking other things of theirs with extra helpings of salt, because there are many erroneous statements within that comment. The main being the bits about Wicca and curses in general, as Wicca (and the Rede in particular) does not prohibit harm and cursing. The Rede simply advises one to carefully consider their actions before taking them. There is no such thing as a “harm none” rule. These sorts of things tell me that what they are teaching about and calling “Wicca” probably isn’t really Wicca. Which doesn’t necessarily make it a bad thing, or not a perfectly valid path. Just that it’s something different that has potentially been mislabeled.

        If you have any other questions feel free to ask. If I find out anything else, I’ll post it here as well. 🙂

  56. So I have a highly sensitive Wiccan and seams to shut me down no matter what I ask her. The only thing I want to understand is the pentagram symbology. What is a pentagram and how does it differ from a pentangle, pentalpha, or a pentacle? I tried asking my friend but when ever I use these words in the same sentence I am acussed of being ignorant for claiming they are the same which is not what I was trying to say. I simply wanted to know the differences. And also how the meanings differ from the Western, Eastern, and Greek meanings. Please help.

  57. Pagan seams to be a very vague term for non main stream religion, but what is it that links these particular religions that are labled pagan together?

    • It is a vague term, and the only thing that links ALL Pagan religions together is the fact that they are all “non-Abrahamic” (meaning that they are not Christian, Muslim or Jewish-based faiths, all of which follow Abraham’s God).

      Outside of that, the various traditions and paths that fall under the Pagan umbrella all have their own beliefs and practices. Some may be similar to others, or share similar practices, but there is really nothing else that fully links all of them together.

      You can read more on the Paganism FAQ page.

  58. Hi! I’ve got a question I haven’t much luck googling, and I hope you can help.

    I’m writing a story, and one of the characters is, essentially, a mystic– he can see/hear/sense the deities of his place in some ineffable sense. I’m hoping to do some research about people who have had this kind of religious experience since childhood, but I can’t seem to hit the right keywords. Do you have any resources I could look into?

    • As Paganism is an umbrella term that encompasses a wide variety of beliefs and practices, there really aren’t any overarching “community belief” systems. Even when the term is used as a short for NeoPaganism, which is often loosely based on Wiccan practices/beliefs, there are still such diverse views, that it’s still hard to come up with something that ALL agree on, or follow. I would suggest reading the Paganism FAQ – which covers some of the basics, as well as lists some of the more common Pagan traditions, along with what they believe in.

  59. Hi! so recently I’ve gotten into witchcraft and was interested in starting as an eclectic witch, the problem is, I need a teacher (I’m scared I wont cast a circle right and I would like a teacher to teach me correctly so I don’t screw up). help?

  60. I’m looking for resources on mystery plays– examples of mystery plays done in the past and current ages. Also, might anyone know if there are sample/model mystery play rituals that I can use to write my own? I have some ideas for one, but I’m overwhelmed with possibilities, and considering someone will have to stand in for the goddess, I don’t want to perform the ritual in a way that would offend Her. I just need some examples to help give the ritual form. Thank you!!!

  61. If you only practise witch craft and celebrate the sabbats is that considered a religion?
    If you practise witch craft are you also Wiccan? I know this to be false yet so many people continue to call their practise wiccan because of the similarity in words.
    If you call yourself a witch bc you practise witch craft, is that correct?
    Then if you r a self proclaimed witch does that mean you are not practising other pagan trads and the like. I would assume not and choose not to take the person seriously when talking of witch craft or pagan paths.

  62. I wasn’t sure where to ask this question, but something lead me here. I hope you can help. I have had this necklace for as long as I can remember. It is a very old style, and it has followed me around my entire life. When I was in elementary school, I took it off and lost it. It then reappeared in my mom’s jewelry box when I went to visit her that summer. (She lived two states away) I have lost it several times, including when I moved to different states, and it always finds me. No one in my family knows where it came from, and can’t recall anyone giving it to me, or owning it before me. It feels very warm and protecting, so I don’t think it is cursed. I just wonder if there is such a blessing, and if you have ever heard of anything like this before. I do love this necklace, and feel oddly drawn to it, but sometimes I just wish I knew why it is the way it is. I appreciate any answer you may have, even if it is just an educated guess.

  63. Hi I’ve been wondering about facial hair, my work place would like me to be clean shaven but I wish to grow a beard as part of my beliefs. Hair can be a sign of strength and as a pagan and im new at this is there a rule of tradition I can use?

    Any help would be appreciated

    • Unless you are a member of a specific tradition (whose guidelines/sacred texts you can point to) that requires one to have facial hair, there’s really not any sort of generalized “rule” about that sort of thing.

      Paganism is an umbrella term that encompasses a huge variety of religions and paths, so while there may be some that require members not to shave, I can’t think of any that do, off the top of my head.

      Something else to keep in mind though, if you work around food or heavy machinery – shaving is generally more of a health/safety issue, than anything else. Most food service jobs want to ensure that someone’s facial hair doesn’t end up being the topping on a customer’s next meal. And if you are working around heavy machines, they want to make sure (mostly for longer beards) that you don’t get caught up and injured because of it. If either of those cases apply, then there is not likely any way around shaving, since there are laws and regulations in place that they can get fined for not adhering to.

      So, if there is not a way to compromise with a short, well-trimmed beard, it’s really going to come down to which one is more important to you – your job or the belief that your beard is a necessary part of your religion?

      If you absolutely feel that the beard is necessary, you can try to fight for it on religious grounds, but not being able to show any sort of actual proof, will make it difficult. Keep in mind too, that trying to fight it could end up costing you the job. So maybe make sure you have a back up plan in place, just in case.

  64. I have a question. I believe someone performed some kind of rite or spell over my daughter when she was just a baby.
    The woman in question lost her first born son to suicide when he was only 22 (her first born child was a little girl who died shortly after birth).
    When my first born (a girl) was in her care – I was in a separate room, something happened and my daughter began screaming terribly, I rushed to her and held her but she was all but inconsolable. Eventually she settled down but since that day her personality changed. Often she seems to have two personalities and now she is beginning to feel irrational fears and suicidal thoughts – she herself says they are irrational and doesn’t know where they are coming from. I fear that she may have some kind of attachment, that another soul is occupying her body and controlling part of her thoughts and behaviour. How can I remove and irradicate this attachment?

    • Please have your daughter evaluated by a qualified mental health professional. All to often, people attempt to ascribe treatable mental health issues to some sort of magical curse or spell (or possession), which leaves those they love suffering for no reason.

      Not sure how old your daughter is now, but if she is entering her teen years, it is very normal for their behavior to change. Suicidal thoughts are not uncommon, as one’s hormones go absolutely nuts during this time, but it’s also something that needs to be evaluated by a doctor.

      Once she’s been cleared medically, then you can look into exploring magical possibilities, but at this point, it is way too early to be focusing on that exclusively. So, please make her an appointment. Particularly if it is depression or another mental health issue, many of them are treatable. It’s just a matter of getting help – the sooner the better.

  65. Hello! This website has been quiet for a little while so I’m not sure if I’m expecting an answer, ahaha. If I don’t get one, oh well, nothing I can do.
    Anyways, I’m actually a Wiccan myself but I’ve never cast any sort of spell or circle until tomight. I was on this other website in search of a banishment spell (I did find it) but I couldn’t help but notice this one http://www.spellsofmagic.com/spells/fantasy_spells/dragon_spells/20308/page.html
    Do you believe something like that is even possible?

    • Sorry for the late reply, I’ve unfortunately had a lot going on the last couple months, so it’s been a bit hectic.

      The short answer is … no.

      The longer answer is that, traditionally speaking, shape-shifting is something that is done via trance or on the astral plane. There is no spell, potion or whatever that will physically transform anyone into some other animal or entity.

      If one were to use that particular “spell” along with trance work (within ritual or not), then sure, it might work in some fashion. Even using a piece of jewelry (or other item) as a “touchstone” of sorts, to facilitate future shifts (also via trance work), is a commonly used concept. It’s a matter of helping to put one in the right frame of mind for trance.

      But in any case, it is not a physical shifting into something else.

  66. hi.. it’s been a while since i’ve researched anything pagan now.. almost 10 years.. i was interested in becoming a wicca when i was 14, but because of very wierd and intense stuff happening all around me i let it be and havent really practiced any belief system since.. ever since ive been able to talk, when people asked me how i would describe myserlf in one word, i would always say a mirror, didnt know why.. while i got older i started meeting people from different religions from my family which is catholic, most of them considered pagan (wicca, santeria or cuban saints, etc) and they would all say the same thing even though theyve never met each other.. that i had a gift, the gift of reflection.. few people bothered to tell me what it was, most just said I’ll find out in my own time.. what i was told was that it was something that would grow with me, and as i got older, if i didnt practiced or stuff, it could get out of hand.. that it was kind of like an energy shield, that absorbed any harm going my way, neutrilizing it.. but as it grew with me it would bounce back to wherever it came from, at first like crazy with no real aim, but as a practiced, i would be able to aim it and even multiply its intensity by 3.. considering i wasnt thebest tempered teen i got quite shaken because i didnt want to hurt anyone.. wo i shut my self from even investigating the subject any further until now.. in a way it kinda makes sence looking back in the way my life has developed and really intense events that happened, but im still no able to fully believe it because i’ve been living the past 10 years as an science-loving atheist.. and yet i cant deny a very powerful atraction to magick wich i’ve been hidding for what feels like too long..

    • You can be a science loving atheist and still practice witchcraft! Witchcraft is not religious. From what I know, you don’t need to be Wiccan or pagan, or etc to practice that lovely gift you have!

  67. Two friend of mine and I where talking about Paganism, so I googled it. After reading all about it, we went outside. My Question . The Man walked outside and asked one of the lady’s not me ” Did you think my Answers where Scary ?? ” For one there wasn’t a question asked. Two Scary? IS There something scary in paganism??
    Thank You Sincerely, C.E.P.C.

    • Sounds like some crazy guy was just messing with you all.

      As to Paganism being scary – keep in mind that Paganism encompasses a huge variety of different religions and paths, some of which involve deities that many may not be comfortable working with (or who some may consider scary). Also, just interacting with deities can be an extremely intense experience, which if one isn’t prepared can be very scary.

      It can also involve practices that are different than what one might be used to and/or delve into aspects of oneself that we aren’t always comfortable acknowledging exists.

      So, while it’s not inherently dangerous or scary, there are parts of it that can be, especially depending on exactly which religion/path one is following.

  68. Hello I’m new to paganism but I’m a bit confused at to which pagan path to pick I am very interested and would really appreciate some help. How would I go about finding a pagan path right for me? Any help would be much appreciated. thank you

  69. Hello,

    I do hope you can answer my question – I really enjoy your blog so much!
    I am a solitary practitioner and I live with my partner in a very old, very paranormally active home. The former owners had a lot of bad luck, ghosts etc…which we only found out about after moving in – of course! We have the paranormal side pretty much under control, but we have been aware of a horses skull at the gate for a number of years. We both feel it’s time to move/dispose of this as it is not associated with us and possibly may be encouraging the dark energy that is still around this property. We know there were black arts practiced here, so we want to do this properly – do you have any advice/thoughts/warnings? Any info would be greatly appreciated – thank you so much. Blessings, Molly

    • I would suggest finding a good resting place for it and just burying it. If you want, you can make a ritual out of it – thank the horse for guarding the house, release it from it’s task, and wish it a peaceful rest.

      Back at the house, do a cleansing of the area – sprinkle some salted water for purification and/or use sage (or other herbs/oils that you feel called to use for cleansing). Visualize any negative energies surrounding the area moving on, being replaced with positive ones. I’m a big fan of actual sweeping (with a broom) in these instances – actual cleaning. So that is something to consider as well.

  70. A friend of mine claims to be descended from Abigail Williams. She told me something that I want to know if it is true. She said you can tell if someone was in your circle in your past life by sex or ritual. Can you? How would either be done? I’m pretty sure he’s from my past but I don’t know if we are elementally connected.

    • Ritually (or even without ritual) one can delve into past lives via hypnosis or trance. There are also methods which use dreaming, though I generally find those less reliable. It’s a nebulous area to begin with though, so there are really no fool-proof ways to get such information, in general.

      I would run the other way if someone tried to tell me we needed to have sex to find out if we were connected via a past life. I mean, sure you could possibly use the sexual energy to enter some sort of trace state and maybe get a reading or information in some way, but it reeks of a line someone would use to lure others to into bed. Given that there are non-sexual ways to get the information, I’d be wary of someone who says you have to have sex.

      My personal method of access past lives is via hypnosis. In most cases, especially if you’ve never done it before, I highly suggest having someone working with you as an anchor. Not that you will get lost, or that it’s inherently dangerous, but memories can seem real and it can be an emotional experience, so it’s good to have someone help ground you in the present if needed.

      I would suggest reading the following on information on how to use self-hypnosis and/or information about using hypnosis to access past lives. – http://www.henrybolduc.com/freebook.html

  71. A couple weeks ago I was at a Pagan festival here in Kansas. Before the ritual of lighting the fire, we were asked to take a token and then later ask our friends what it was. Well none of my friends knew what the symbol was. Do you have any idea what it means? Any help would be appreciated. Thank you in advance!

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    • Honestly, no clue. It’s not something that I’ve seen before, and even in browsing around – there are things that look similar (like Thebian or even Bamoun, which isn’t actually Pagan), but nothing that I could find as an exact match. Could also be a sigil of some sort that was created out of different symbols (or even something unique).

      I would suggest contacting whoever organized the ritual (if possible) and asking them directly where they go it from.

  72. Hello! So I am beginning to delve into this wonderful world of magic and paganism and Wicca and everything. I’m very interested in paganism and solitary eclectic witchcraft. I read your article in that but still have a few questions, I can’t find any good information on the components I know I want to practice, aka herbal healing, following the moon, a bit of green witchcraft, basic spells and rituals. I just want information that can help me learn more about this wonderful world before I mess with things unbeknownst to me

  73. Hello. I recently started dating a wonderful guy and he is wiccan. I am trying to learn more about what he believes and have come across some interesting things which has left me with a few questions. One being is there a holiday or something like an event coming up in July that I can help celebrate with him to show him I am curious about his beliefs and supportive of them as well? And two. For my own curiosity. This July 31st is a blue moon. Is this particular blue moon have special meaning to wiccans, considering the date? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

    • Not in July, but June 21st is the Summer Solstice (Mid-Summer), which is typically celebrated. The next Sabbat would be Lughnasad (or Lammas), which (astronomically falls on August 7th), but for those that don’t celebrate them on the actual cross-quarters, is generally held around August 1st.

      You can get more info on the Sabbats here…

      Sabbats – general information
      Astronomical Dates

      Given that it falls just before the generally celebrated cross-quarter date, some may find it of special significance, but that may be something that is up to individual covens, or individuals (if one’s practice is more of NeoPagan variety).

  74. I don’t consider myself a follower of any specific religion. I have studied and researched many and have not found validity in any one belief. But my boyfriend is wiccan and I would like to show my support in his beliefs. Is there anything coming up that I can show that support with by doing something without being disrespectful to him or the wiccan community?

    • I want to add to this that I’m not saying I believe any to be wrong or incorrect just that I have not found any religion to be right one or only one out there to offer direct attention to. I have been apart of a number of rituals and ceremonies of multiple beliefs and found many have their connections to things greater than ourselves.

    • Honestly, the best thing to do is talk to him directly about it. Ask him about what he celebrates and when and if/how you can participate, as you’d like to learn more and be supportive.

      There are many different Pagan paths, and even within traditional Wicca, there are differences between how things may be celebrated, and that doesn’t even include the vast differences in NeoPagan practices (that are based on some parts of Wiccan practice). Without knowing more about his specific path, making any sort of suggestions would not make a lot of sense, as they may or may not fit with his personal practices.

      Keep in mind too that if he’s an initiate, there are some things that are oath-bound and closed to anyone who is not also an initiate. In those cases, he cannot share them with anyone without breaking that oath.

  75. Hello!
    I’ve been practicing basic Wicca for a while and i recently underwent visualization to meet my patron deity. It all went very well, but i’m having a little trouble identifying him/her. I was hoping you could help. I remember everything came in three, i could hear crows and found some sort of bone waiting for me. As for the deity, all i was able to see was a figure of a wolf in the distance. As i am not that certain in my practice yet i decided not to push it and closed down slowly. I cannot seem to identify a deity from those signs(which appear quite distinctive) and was hoping you could help. I would be very greatful for i wish to connect with my patron deity further.

    Blessed be!

    • There are probably hundreds of deities that are associated with wolves, crows and bones, across the various pantheons. To speculate without more information would not be very helpful to you. Not only that, but learning exactly who it is, may be a part of your journey to being in that particular deity’s service.

      The best thing to do, is continue your meditations on a regular basis or just spend some time communicating in general. Introduce yourself, and let them know that you are interested in knowing more fully who they are. Ask them to reveal themselves to you, or other “get to know you” type questions, so that you can better understand who they are.

      It’s worth noting that not everyone has a “patron” deity. So the other reason why your visualization was so vague could be that there is one hovering around, but they have not yet fully decided to put out the call to you.

      Also – from a traditional standpoint, Wicca is the priesthood of two specific deities. A God and Goddess whose names are only known to initiates, so the only way to know would be to seek initiation via a properly lineaged coven. If you are a non-initiate (or an initiate for that matter) that isn’t to say you couldn’t have a different patron deity, but that honoring them would be something separate from the practice of Wicca.

      • Thank you very much, I am a solitary practitioner so that does change things a bit, but your advice really helped. All of this left me feeling sort of uneasy and this makes it much clearer. I’ll just continue with meditations and let it run its course. Once again, thank you.

  76. Well I was wondering if it is okay to change one item from an ingredients list of a spell. For example I was wondering if it’s alright if in a spell the ingredient calls for parchment paper but could I just use regular paper instead?

    • Generally, you can substitute anything – the key is to make sure that you use like items, or items that have similar properties/correspondences. Though, in some cases it may be ok to use wildly different items, as long as you feel that it’s the right thing to use (or feel called to use it).

      Spell work is mostly about making it your own and customizing it to fit your needs anyways. So in the end, if you feel that “B” thing will work just as well as “A” thing, then there it not really any reason why you can’t substitute B for A.

      Also, if getting other items is difficult, write your own spell that uses items you have on-hand.

  77. Ok so here goes nothing,
    I am a mostly logical person and scientific person, which means for me to believe something, there must be solid evidence in its existence. That is why for the longest time I have been a solid atheist.

    Something happened to me this weekend. I was up at my grandmothers house with my cousin, to be there for grandma for the 3rd year anniversary of my grandfather’s death (who I have always been the closest with).

    My grandmother has recently renovated the house and now there is a bathing room in the basement as well as my grandfathers tool room that he spent hours at.
    Even with my stanch atheism I have sensed my grandfathers presence in that tool room. So sometimes I go speak with him.

    This weekend was different. This weekend as I got out of the shower in the evening, I heard my grandfather speaking to me in my head. I could recognize his voice telling me to get out quickly.

    A sudden dread washed over me and I left the basement which was empty. I told my cousin about this who is wiccan and is a purifier (not sure what that means) but we’re in the kitchen when we both hear this sloshing noise and then heavy and fast paced footsteps up from the basement. My cousin grabs me and pulls me into our bedroom. She says later that it was an angry man who charged us and that in the morning he was gone.

    Now this experience has shaken me. And I was hoping that someone could explain what exactly happened? I am willing to believe anything atm because there is something going on at my grandmothers house and its possible science cannot explain it. Is my grandma in danger? Should I be worried or should I be seeking professional help?

    • I have had an experience with a good and bad ghost once before. I can’t see them but I can feel them. I would recommend calling a medium to the house. Explain to the medium what happened. If you don’t feel comfortable doing a protection spell or charm, have your cousin do it. Blessed be.

  78. Hello!

    My fiance’s birthday is coming up soon and I am trying to plan a ritual to do with him. He is a crystal healer and we are both Ecclectic Pagans. We live in the Inland NW and I thought since we have had so many fires lately it might be a good idea to do either a lay line healing/cleansing or try to heal the nature around our city.

    I was wondering if you had any references I could look into to plan said ritual or if you had any helpful tidbits for doing it. I haven’t tried to before, and I want to be able to incorporate his abilities as a healer and crystal witch. We are very practiced, he has been a practioner for 15 years and I have for 5. Please let me know what you think would be some good references and/or suggestions. Blessed be!

    • My sincerest apologies for the late reply, particularly on such a time sensitive question. Honestly, I don’t know much about lay lines or even where to direct you, in terms of resources on them.

      In terms of ritual planning – there’s a planning worksheet here that is extremely detailed, which you may find helpful.

      In terms of crystals and their uses, I’ve always been really fond of Melody’s Love is in the Earth. Which contains extensive details on various minerals and crystals, along with their properties and uses.

      Other than that, in cases like this – intention counts for a lot. I would suggest planning something simple, and concentrate all energies on healing the area rather than trying to do something overly elaborate. When there are too many details to keep track of it can sometimes scatter one’s focus making the ritual less effective. If you work with elementals or land wights, possibly look to offerings that you can give or ways that you might enlist their aid.

      Hope your fiance has a wonderful birthday!! 🙂

  79. Okay so my question is since one of the most basic Wiccan morals/ beliefs is the “harm none” concept I was curious about two different things. 1. What should you do other than accept the consequences when harm has been done through one of your actions? 2. What is to be done when another inflicts harm on you? Nothing? Just curious because I haven’t see this clearly stated anywhere.

    • That has to do with the Wiccan rede (I might have spelt that wrong). Just search around for the truth about the rede, I only know that basics.

  80. Hi! I’m Daniella and I’m 14 years old.

    I’ve been raised as a Christian my whole life. But about 2 years ago, I realised that it wasn’t my true calling or a place where I felt at home at all.
    But about a year ago, I fell upon Wicca. To me, it feels true and right and I feel so at home within it, so I just decided to call myself Wiccan. More recently, I realised that that wasn’t any way to follow Wicca and that I’d gone about it in a way that wouldn’t truly benefit me. So now I’m taking the time to learn more about both Christianity and Wicca and I’m so excited to finally choose and follow Wicca as I should’ve done in the first place.
    However, going to church every Sunday has made it increasing difficult to commit myself to Wicca so I’m left feeling unsure whether I was too quick but in Christianity I feel uncomfortable and unsafe and judged so I know it’s not what is right for me.
    I guess I’m just looking for advice and how to release all this doubt and fear.
    I truly want to dedicate myself to the God and Goddess but I’m just doubting whether I’m ready or not. At my age and in my ‘situation’ it’s hard to find other Wiccans who I can speak to and learn from and be guided by.
    Thank you!

  81. I recently found a black cat outside my house and I had this unstoppable urge to bring him inside and now I feel a strong connection to him and he refuses to leave my side. What could this mean?

    • Tis the nature of cats to sucker us in like that, particularly if we are already predisposed to liking them. If he’d been homeless for a while and/or going without regular meals, the fact that he’s sticking to you like glue at this point isn’t surprising either if you are feeding him and giving him lots of snuggles.

      So, unless you asked for a sign and the cat suddenly appeared, or there are other odd events that have been occurring, I wouldn’t necessarily take it to mean anything other than – you found a loving cat that needed a good home.

  82. Hello. I have a technical question regarding altars. I am very very confused after searching everywhere and not finding a thorough answer…
    I understand that you have your basic alter layout which holds things such as your god and goddess statues and representations of the elements etc, but I was wondering what this basic setup is used for exactly? I ask because when I’ve read various spells I’m guessing you conduct these on the same alter but without all the other tools that you would find in a basic set up because they would interfere with the tools that you’re using specifically for your spell, so in that case if you’re not using the basic set up for spell work or ritual work what is it used for exactly?
    I hope you can help, thank you in advance. Aer

  83. Hey could you please tell me the origin or more about this old family spell? My grandmother used to say her mother (as her own mother had before) would instruct them, if they had warts or pimples, to put as many rocks as they had warts/pimples in a bag and then trick an enemy into picking it up to transfer them to the enemy! I’m wondering if you or anyone else has heard of this or knows anything about where this curse comes from as I am kind of curious. Thank you so much!

    • Sounds more like a old folk remedy type thing, rather than an actual spell, and in looking around – there is a mention here of something similar which supports that. In their research on the subject, it would seem to have origins in Appalachian Folklore, but as they also mention there seems to be a variety of similar cures in a number of different cultures as well.

      Interesting question. 🙂

  84. Hello, I tried looking it up but it kept coming up as a symptom I never had before so it couldn’t be it.
    Last night I kept getting this tingly sensation in my body, well my right side. I thought it was just plain numbness but the weird thing is that I wasn’t sleeping on it. What makes it more odd is that I could still feel my arms and fingers and legs. So it wasn’t numbness, more like a tingly feeling and it wasn’t uncomfortable it was just weird like gentle weird. It happened twice.
    I searched everywhere for answers then I came across this website.

    This all happened after sending a strong message to the Universe. ♥

    Please help me understand. Is it normal or just a symptom I need to be concerned about.

  85. I am Pagan, and it infuses my whole life. It is integral to who I am, and I love being able to share it with people close to me. But I always find myself drawn to guys who don’t share my beliefs and are more “straight-edge” than I am. It’s very much a Dharma-and-Greg thing. The attraction is very much there, but I always end up dissatisfied and feeling disconnected because I can’t share the deepest part of me with my partner.
    Is there a way to have a happy, healthy, holistically satisfying relationship with someone who doesn’t share your spiritual beliefs? Thanks in advance. 😊

  86. I am still very new to the pegan faith I have done research and I whole heartedly believe that this is the faith for me but I’m struggling to answer a lot of the questions that I have that I can’t find in books is there a good place to connect with other pegans and ask many questions on a continuous basis

    • You are more than welcome to ask here or through our Tumblr, Twitter or FB pages. In terms of forums or other Q&A type places, a lot will depend on which particular Pagan religion you are interested in. Some sources are better than others, for individual paths. So if there is something specific you are focusing on, let us know and we can try to direct you to a good source.

  87. Hello…I’m really sorry, I feel entirely sill asking this, and I’m not sure it’s the right place at all. I always follow my intuition, always, but there arent many chances to do so. My grandmother has been very ill all of my life, I’m sixteen years old. She has COPD and a bunch of other things wrong with her chest. She has been in and our of hospital many times and had many near death experiences due to this. Basically. She was in hospital last week, and she was getting better! I didn’t think anything of it. I talked to my grandad (her husband) about the house they moved out of that we all used to live in, and he told me that when she does eventually die I will I will inherate that house. Of course I don’t care about these things. I love my gran. Just after we had that conversation, it made me feel uneasy, and then we got a call and she suddenly caught and infection and got really bad again. I felt partly guilty. Then later in in the week he gave me a key for that house, so I can have a look around.

    I went there, and stayed for a couple of hours
    I just felt so uneasy being there, and kept thinking of my gran (who was at this stage getting better) a few hours later I got a phone call saying to get to the hospital as soon as I can because my gran was likely going to die. I felt like I should have seen it and that it was my fault.

    Tonight I was supposed to go back but when I got nearer I just felt really sick and nervous and like I couldn’t go in the gate because my gran was going to deteriorate again or something…

    Is there anyway that the house could be cursed since it used to be her house?? I’m so sorry if this is somehow offensive or irrelevant or stulip or something I really do apologise, I just can’t understand it and I need to go to the house at some point but I could never live with the guilt if anything happened. Im so interested in paganism and wicca and I hope to really embrace everything about the religion one day, but I have no idea how:P but yeah sorry again and thank you in advance!

  88. I’m curious about how I can possibly “join” or become more involved in paganism. I currently call myself an agnostic. I meditate (fairly) regularly, and pray to a variety of goddesses and gods. I also use oracle cards with very satisfying and, I feel, accurate results. As I grow into an adult (I’m 16), I want to increase my spiritual practice. I’ve done some research into paganism, and I strongly believe that my beliefs and values align with its tenets. However, I’m not quite sure where to begin in terms of becoming more informed and involved with paganism and the pagan community. Any and all advice you could give me would be greatly appreciated.

    Thank you so much!

  89. I have been interested in Wicca and witch craft for as long as I can remember. You can thank Angela Lansbury for the initial interest, Bedknobs and Broomsticks is one of my favorite movies, but my interest has remained even though I know Wicca does not grant you the ability to turn someone into a rabbit.

    I’m not sure why I haven’t studied in earnest. I’m 37, I’ve known about Wicca (as opposed to Hollywood witches like The Sanders Sisters) for two decades.

    The reason for not starting sooner is not important though. The reason I’m reaching out to you is. Today I was deeply saddened when I learned that lives of 50 people were snuffed out by one man in one night. My first reaction was how could another mass shooting happen? Why is no one doing anything to prevent this? I argued with a couple of people on Twitter and then I saw other people saying “we should all coe together for the victims.” At first I scoffed thinking, “OK right winger let’s not address the problem let’s just send our thoughts and prayers.” and I replied, “I don’t mean to sound ignorant, I honestly want to know, how do we come together for the victims?” And I thought and thought and realized that the problems with our country and the world are partisan based and it isn’t just the politicians, we the people are partisan politics incarnate. I thought hard about this and decided a softer approach was necessary. I discussed it with a likeminded friend who said something that sent me on this path, “At the core of all of this is in my opinion is the denial of love to others and ourselves.”

    That made me realize that my request for self love isn’t only for myself. It’s for everyone. I believe that something happening across the world can impact me even if I don’t know about it so inversely I believe that me truly loving myself may spread self-love to others.

    While I was thinking and typing I thought of Wicca because it was a wise witch who first really explained the “we are all one” idea to me and I thought, if I were a Wiccan would I be able to send healing to others? Would I be able to share tolerance with others? Could Wiccans heal our country? If so, let’s get together, I’ll buy a plane ticket. If not I will still begin my study of Wicca and learn to heal and love myself and wish for a better world.

    Thank you so much for providing this service and for reading this novel.

  90. So…I’ve recently read several articles on eclectic beliefs, this page was one of them, and the other I think was a referred article…however, both have been very disheartening to this seeker.

    If we must be careful of apropriating, and other such ethics, and that “what calls to us” may not be for us, then how do we know as seekers when we’ve found something that doesn’t violate or offend the home beliefs we’ve borrowed from? I myself have felt drawn to a bit of Celticism and a bit of Buddhism…but now I doubt these draws, and feel like I have to start all over again on my search.

    I’ve been wandering for almost 6 years, reading and studying: When do I know I can stop, since my intuition isn’t necessarily correct? I’m only more confused after reading these articles.

  91. Hello! I have a question about a pentagram that I’ve been researching for months. I feel like the more I read about it the less I know. I’m a baby Wiccan, I’ve been practicing for almost 4 years now. I really want to talk to a professional about this pentagram that I found.

  92. Ok so I’m sure you have gotton this question before. I am a teenaged Witch living in a small town with very Christian and Catholic parents and relatives as well as friends. Several times I attempted to breach the topic of my craft with them without revealing myself as a Witch and was told along the lines of, ” Wicca is just devil worshipping. They practice black magic. All Witches are sinners and will go to hell. It’s just fairytales it isn’t real.” What do I do? Wicca is the only religion I feel I really believe in. It changed my life and it’s a part of me.

  93. Hello, what are some informative books or websites I can read to become more “in touch” with paganism, herbs, stones, and simple protection spells?

    • I would suggest looking at the resources listed in this post and this one (some of the suggestions overlap, but there are some differences as well).

      Is there a particular Pagan religion that interests you, or are you more leaning to general NeoPaganism? If there is something more specific you need (or the resources listed above aren’t enough), let me know. 🙂

    • I’m not an initiate, but my understanding of it is that since Wicca is an orthopraxic religion… exactly how one views the God and Goddess is mostly up to personal experience, as long as one follows the correct practices. So, if you ask 100 Wiccans how they know and experience deity, you may get 100 different answers – even if they are following the exact same ritual practices (as required by the tradition).

      However, having said that – it’s not a common way of viewing them. Wicca is about serving the Lord and Lady and if one sees them as just symbols/metaphors, I’m not entirely sure how that service would manifest. Seems like there would be other paths out there that would be a better fit.

      • Thank u for ur reply so fast. It’s is love engagement spell. 7 days of incense burning candles over a personal belonging from each of us . Then to bury in front of rose bush on 7 th day which is a full moon. This Friday. No rose bushes around

      • Probably any plant/tree/bush that you have available and that you feel symbolizes love and/or lasting relationships would be fine. Sometimes, you just have to work with whatever you have access to. Especially when the weather or seasons are working against you.

      • Thank you. This has been a 7 year relationship n his fear need to stop … I need the next step n if u can provide me any help…. have a wonderful day

      • My only suggestion really, is be very careful how you word it. I’m not a big fan of pushing people to do things that they don’t want to do, particularly when it comes to love/relationships. I would look towards something that encourages opening channels of communication that will help move the relationship forward, rather than any sort of actual “love” spell. Talking about why they fear marriage is a good place to start, and if there are actual things that they fear – then a spell to overcome those fears (in a positive way) would be be the the next step to moving the relationship forward.

        While I know that for some, getting married is important, the other thing I would mention is that, if your relationship is fine otherwise, you may want to consider carefully before changing that. That next step that you need may not be what your partner needs and pushing them to that may cause things to go in a direction that you weren’t expecting. So just keep that in mind.

      • Thank u very much. I will type here the word n I will take ur advice. If I should not continue then can u advise me on what to do with our articles that I started with. I only wish for good things n if this is not then I will not. With the love in my heart with the love that is ours I call upon the power of the earth n stars engagement I seek proposal u will offer me down the marriage aisle is where we b. By the power of 3 times 3 as I will it so more it b…. thank u !!!

      • If you already started the spell, I would suggest redirecting the energy into simply having a healthy relationship and at the end of the 7 days return the charged items to you and your partner to keep.

  94. Last night, when I was sleeping who or what draws wicca pentagram on the palm of my hand?
    Only I was alone at home all night long and no one has the key of my house and no one knows I’m a wiccan.
    It was drawn with blue pen.
    I am right handed and I’ve never been able to draw anything with my left hand so I don’t draw it on my hand.
    You think it’s what or who?
    Please answer to this question privately

    • If you were alone and no one else has the key to your house, you are really the only one who could have done it. Sometimes we do strange things in our sleep without realizing it. When I was younger, I woke my mom up in the middle of the night and told her I was late for school, got dressed and everything, and then laid back down in bed. Woke up in the morning and didn’t remember any of it. It’s weird, but it happens.

      If you are concerned though, you could always get a wireless camera to record while you are sleeping. At least give you some peace of mind that you aren’t being bothered when you are sleeping.

  95. I am so confused about why you have to pick a God and Goddess and can not praise to them in general? There seems to be so many strong opinions the new people like me that feel this is where I should have been my entire life have no idea what is the right or wrong way to practice or honor the craft. Any advise is greatly appreciated. BB

    • If you aren’t called to any particular deity, don’t feel like you have to pick one. Generally, unless you are a member of a tradition that honors a specific god or goddess (or pantheon), you aren’t required to have one. A lot of people may talk about, but it’s not the only way things are done, and there are even paths that don’t even involve the gods at all (or at the very least, put less focus on them).

  96. I can’t believe I never thought of this before.
    So if Sabbats like Samhain for example are celebrated on inverted ends of the year in the Southern Hemisphere for obvious reasons, (October 31st here, May 1st in someplace like Australia or Chile) what about pagans who live right smack on the equator? For that matter, diosil and widdershins are clockwise and counter clockwise, respectively, here in the Northern Hemisphere, and opposite in the Southern. The same goes for what direction certain elements correspond to. In the Northern Hemisphere, North is Earth and South is Fire, but it’s the opposite in the Southern Hemisphere. (East/Air and West/Water, obviously doesn’t change.)
    Sabbats and certain rituals must be confusing for Brazilian Wiccans….

  97. I’m just starting and have a issues with my love life can I do a easy spell without any idea or experience to help stop us from aruging so much over stupid things or how can I get help.

  98. Hello,
    I have seen someone with an inverted triple goddess tattoo around my school. Does this have any meaning? The maiden and crone have switched places. Mother remains in the middle.
    Thank you in advance for your answer.

    • Your best bet is to ask them specifically what it means to them. Tattoos are usually very personal and even if we speculated here on possible meanings, it would be just that – speculation (and really, it could be anything). The only way to know what it actually means is to go directly to the source.

  99. Hello I have a question. I am planning a recital, and want to theme it “In Reverence to the Divine Mother”. I am including some Gregorian and Sanskrit chants, which I am familiar with. I was searching for more chants or songs from other traditions to broaden the program, and came across “Isis Astarte Diana Hekate Demeter Kali Inanna”

    I like it a lot, but want to be respectful and also don’t want to stir up/provoke energies or spirits.

    I am wondering if you have experience with this chant, and could tell me or direct me to some reading on how it is used and what the impact is. I’m in the San Francisco CA area if it is better to refer me to a teacher.

    Thanks for any help you can offer

    Samuel

    • I think as long as you frame the event as offering chants/songs from a variety of religions and do so with respect to those religions, it would probably be fine. But I would also suggest contacting Reclaiming, which is a group based out of the Bay Area. They have a lot of experience with public rituals (which I know yours isn’t a ritual, but still will have similar elements) and performing chants in public, and should be able to give you some advice on that chant specifically.

  100. Hi.Can spells still work for me even though I was born unlucky and have bad luck or will it get in my way?Is white magic more powerful than bad luck?What if I have a doubt about a spell but then start believing in it will it work even though at first I doubted it?And How do I say a belief in my mind about the spell working to refer to the spell?Do I say ‘This spell will work’ or ‘The spell will work’ or what right before casting it?Thanks!

    • You make your own luck, and your actions now have more bearing on how things turn out than any “bad luck” you were supposedly born with. Don’t doubt yourself. Our doubts and lack of focus are what contribute to spells not working, so don’t doubt yourself. When casting, keep your goals and intentions firmly set in your mind – if you need to state the goal out loud (or silently to yourself, if you are in a situation where you need to be quiet) over and over to reaffirm it. If saying “this spell will work” helps, then say it. I know that there are many Witches who say similar phrases when ending their spellwork.

  101. I am new to wicca. After my friend and I made our wands, we preformed a simple protection ward around my house. Its consisted of using each of the elements and chanting while walking. Is this spell okay for a beginning spell? Thanks for any feedback!

  102. Hello, I wish to be a solitary witch, my interests being in the moon and herbal remedies, but I don’t know where to start learning. I don’t know where to start with deities, for I believe in worshiping the moon, I am having difficulty learning about herbs, I’ve been trying to focus on tea, and there’s so much about wicca, witchcraft, and worshiping that I don’t know. I don’t know who to follow, what books to read, if I should have a specific routine, I would appreciate it greatly if you could help me.

    • Best thing to do at this point is read as much as you can and try to figure out what works for you. If you don’t feel pulled towards any particular deities, that’s perfectly ok. Despite it seeming like everyone has their own Gods and Goddesses, not everyone is called in that direction, and simply honoring the cycles of the moon as it journeys through the seasons is fine. Keep in mind though, that Wicca in particular is deity-centered, but there are plenty of eclectic paths that are not, so that shouldn’t be an issue.

      A few of our previous posts that have some good book recommendations include:

      I’m New to Paganism…
      Solitary Witch – Where Do I Start?
      Atheistic Witchcraft
      Taking the Next Step…

  103. Hello! So I would really like to participate in Magic(cast spells, send energy, do ritual, ect) however I haven’t decided on a specific path for myself, am i still allowed to do these things? Or do I have to wait until I pick my path and such? Will my spells/everything still work and be successful? Thank you!

  104. Hello, I have a question about something that has recently happened to me?
    It has happened in multiple areas that I will be sitting in my car and a little blue bird will land on my passenger side window and just sit and look through the window and staire at me but it’s always the same kind of bird.

    Recently I was sitting in my car and and the passenger window was open. All of a sudden a giant (I mean giant, never seen such a big crow) crow flys and lands right on the mirror and turns its whole neck and sticks its head into the window and staired at me for the longest time. I tried not to freak out because I didn’t want it to do anything crazy but I swear to you this look gave me the most uncomfortable evil feeling throughout my whole body. It’s like it was stairing into me stairing deep into my soul or something. I’ve never felt something so evil before and it looked away and poked his head back in and continued to staire.
    This lasted about 30 seconds but as u can think it felt like forever when feeling uncomfortable. And then it took off but I felt like it was just watching me curious of what I was doing.

    Why is it that a little blue bird kept landing stairing at me and now this big crow did the exact same.

    Some say the crow is a sign of witches because they put themselves into the bird to watch something.

    Curious on your thoughts.

    • We get tons of birds in our yard, since hubby feeds them constantly, and what I can tell you about their behavior is that birds are weird. Flighty, obviously, but also curious in many cases and they will totally sit and stare at people, particularly if they think they might be able to get a meal out of it. Depending on where you live, and especially if it’s in the city or near a park, the birds you’ve encountered my be used to having other humans throw food scraps to them and were simply dropped by hoping you’d do the same.

      I’ve also noticed that they like shiny car parts, or not so much “like” but they catch their attention. It’s reflective enough they sometimes think that their reflection is another bird and will peck at it or act somewhat aggressive towards the reflection, in a “defending my territory” sort of a way. Which can lead to some scary moments for those watching.

      As to seeing similar looking birds, it could just be that those birds are common in your area. We see a lot of cardinals and starlings in our yard, along with blue jays and woodpeckers. If I started thinking it was a sign every time I saw one of those types of birds, I’d never leave my house, but honestly, it’s just because they are native to the area and our yard is an open buffet for them.

      I would worry too much about the birds, they are just being their weird, wacky selves.

  105. I recently did a sever the bond ceremony to sever the bond between my ex husband and my self. With pure heart to release the hold that he has over me emotionally and the candle that represented myself burned down and out way before his the candles were the same type and bought at the same time they sat next to each other and were lit with in min of each other with the exception of mine was lit last. Is this something i should worry about? What could that mean?

    • Candle quality and burn time can vary, even between candles from the same brand that appear exactly the same. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. Your doubts would be more likely to affect the spell than how the candles burned. So stay positive and focused on the ultimate goals of the ritual, as that is what is most important.

  106. I felt lead by life circumstances to explore magick and test my talents. I found a dead crow in my yard today after doing a simple candle love spell last night. This was my first spell ever. I also did this spell during a thunderstorm. It is a good sign or bad sign finding this dead crow?

    Some back ground: I am a scorpio and have always been very intuitive, when I dream it means something and I have predicted simple things as a child. For instance, when walking on the railroad tracks I felt that I should climb up the hill in case a train came. Not even five minutes later I hear the train. My dreams give me insight and I never remember a dream unless it is symbolic to my life. My great-grandfather could “pray the fire” out of people. As in, if they had a burn she could heal it. She was also a very intuitive woman. This lead me to consider magick.

    Now I’m wondering if this crow is a sign of good fortune or if I shouldn’t dabble in magick anymore?

    • Finding a dead bird after a storm isn’t necessarily a sign of anything other than the bird was unlucky to be stuck out in the storm. In terms of interpreting signs and symbols – these are things that are deeply personal and whether something is good or bad, depends entirely on the individual. My initial thoughts are that I don’t think finding the crow has anything to do with your spellwork, but if you feel that it does mean something, it’s up to you to examine what your intuition is telling you and figure out how that impacts you going forward.

      Having said that, without knowing exactly what sort of “love” spell you did (simple or otherwise), it’s sort of hard to say one way or the other if the crow is relevant. Even assuming for the moment that it is relevant to the spell, it doesn’t necessarily mean that you should’t pursue magic, could just mean that particular spell was not a good choice.

      But generally, one thing happening randomly I wouldn’t worry too much about. If you start noticing it happening repeatedly, then it’s much more likely that it’s an actual sign.

  107. Hello I’ve been a witch for 7 years and just a couple of day ago my eyes started to tingle every time I see this small black mist thing with black bone like legs. Have I attracted something negative because of my stress?

    • The first thing to do if you are having issues with your vision is to see an opthamologist to rule out any possible medical issues that could be affecting your eyes. It is always a good idea to rule out mundane causes before looking to the magical/supernatural for answers.

  108. i’m not familiar with exactly what pagans cam accomplish but i must ask, are there any rituals or spells or anything that pagans can perform that would turn someone into a werewolf or lycanthrope? it may sound silly but i feel i have to ask this for personal reasons

    • No – magic cannot defy the laws of nature/physics. Shapeshifting is generally something that relates to trance-work, rather than anyone physically changing shape.

      • i see, thank you for that information, it seems i will have to find some other way of making it happen if it is even possible. the reason i asked was because one of the earliest stories about werewolves involved the person being cursed by what i am unsure so thats why i thought a pagan could help, thanks for your time.

  109. I just finished a candle spell and my candles burnt out at different times. Do I continue doing the ritual with whichever are left or am I supposed to just be done now? I’ve never done a candle spell before so I’m worried.

    • What did the spell say to do? Every spell is different, so it depends on how the spell was designed. Worth noting though, that it’s pretty normal for candles to burn at different rates (even those that appear to be the same size/shape), so there’s not really anything weird about that in and of itself. If there are additional steps that you are supposed to be using the candle for, use whatever parts you have leftover, even if they are different sizes. It should be fine.

  110. Hi my name is Robin my fiancé is of pagan faith the other night he gave me a necklace with a vial on it that had his semen in it can someone please tell me the meaning of this please…. And why did he have to do it during a full moon?

    • If you want to know what it means, honestly, you’ll have to ask him. Other than sexual or fertility type purposes, it could be used for any number of different things, that to even try making a guess wouldn’t be helpful to you in any way. As to doing such things on a full moon, it’s generally a time that enhances the power of things – whether charging, rituals or spellwork. But it could also be that some other property of a full moon was necessary as well, however, without knowing the purpose, it’s hard to speculate.

      Personally, I would just as him to explain the meaning of the gift. Particularly if he expects you to wear it, he should have no problem telling you what the purpose of it is.

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